SPECIAL GUEST: BEST-SELLING PSYCHOLOGIST HENDRIE WEISINGER: HOW TO BE RELAXED IN A PRESSURE-FILLED WORLD

Are you under pressure?  In our time-crunched, technology-driven, results-obsessed society, many of us feel psychological pressure to perform at the highest level, even when we don’t feel like it.  Now there’s a way to reduce your pressure, enjoy life more, and get better results.

 

Recently, we had our friend, Dr. Hendrie Weisinger, two times New York Times bestselling author and performance psychologist on Love University, and we learned the secrets of handling psychological pressure so can live a full and happy life.

 

Here are some tips for handling pressure courtesy of Dr. Weisinger, whether it’s related to school, work, career, business, relationships, or your personal life:

 

*See Pressure as a Fun Challenge:  Don’t be intimidated by a pressure situation (asking your dream person out on a date; going for the job you really want; making a speech or presentation). Instead think of it as a fun learning experience in which you get to learn about yourself and grow as a person. Even if you get turned down for the date or the job (or if the speech wasn’t perfect), you have practiced going for what you want, and you will eventually succeed.

 

 

*Recall Past Successes: Make a habit of thinking back to those times when you did succeed, whether it was in your career, relationship, or personal goals. When you focus on your past successes, you will anchor that winning, positive feeling of joy and confidence into your mind. As a result, you will have less trepidation and anxiety, and more confidence and self-belief, about your ability to achieve your present goals, even when you face pressure or obstacles in your path.

 

*Go for Micro-Successes:  If you haven’t had much success in your life in a particular area (relationships, money, happiness), aim for micro-successes—small wins or accomplishments toward your goal. If you’re shy, smile at others and get a smile back. If you’re fearful of public speaking, practice speaking before supportive friends. If you feel anxious about quitting your job and starting a new business, do the new business part-time as you build results and profits. When you experience these micro-successes, you will start to feel more confident and motivated, and you will be able to take the next step for your goal, despite the pressure you may face (fear of failure, for example).

 

 

*Think Optimistically: “There’s Plenty of Fish in the Sea”:  Instead of overstressing the importance of a particular goal or activity, realize that you will have many more opportunities to succeed in the future. If  things aren’t working out for you, you can always find another date, job, business opportunity, leisure activity, and even social circle. Keep an open and optimistic mind that you can always do better, have more, and be more—this optimistic mindset will take the “do or die” pressure off you as you realize that you will always have another opportunity to succeed as long as you are alive.