Love University with Dr. Alexander Avila

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Wednesday Jan 09, 2019

HAPPILY EVER AFTER: BREAKING THROUGH TO THE RELATIONSHIP OF YOUR DREAMS: SPECIAL GUESTS: BESTSELLING AUTHORS AND 50 YEAR HAPPILY MARRIED THERAPIST COUPLE: LINDA AND CHARLIE BLOOM

Wednesday Jan 09, 2019

We loved having Linda and Charlie Bloom on Love University--a wonderful happily married couple for over 50 years, and two licensed therapists, as well.

These bestselling authors and lifetime partners enlighten us by busting through the myths of love and marriage and teaching us the secrets of love.

Love Myth #1: You feel loving all the time when you're married.

Myth Buster #2: You still love them, despite being angry or sad, because you find the common ground in the relationship.

Love Myth #2: All differences must be resolved in the relationship.

Myth Buster #2: Its OK to have unresolved differences in a relationship. Differences may even strengthen the marriage (each partner can learn something new) as long as each partner respects the other.

Love Myth #3: If you loved me, I don't need to ask for what I want.

Myth Buster #3: It’s important to ask for what you want. The key is to have an atmosphere of acceptance and tolerance as each person shares their desires with their partner.

Love Myth #4: Love means never having to say, "You're Sorry."

Myth Buster #4: Keep the word "I'm sorry" at your fingertips, as you apologize sincerely if you hurt your partner. These powerful words can relieve great stress in a relationship.

Other secrets of a successful relationships and happy marriage include:

*Give Your Best Energy to Your Relationship

*See Your Relationship as a Living Entity

*Happy couples are slightly delusional—they see their partner in a positive light, even though doing so may be a little unrealistic.

*Love is not 50-50: It could be 90-10, with one partner carrying the weight for a while. Then, it reverses, and the other partner gives 90%. It evens out in the long-term.

Listen in as you learn the secrets of great relationships and marriages.

Friday Jan 04, 2019

The Laws of Likeability: How To Win Friends And Get The Results You Want, With Special Guest: Forbes' Top Rated Networker, Michelle Tillis Lederman

Friday Jan 04, 2019

Do you want to win friends and influence people in the new millennium? Now there’s a way to increase your likeability factor and get the results you want.

Everyone wants to work with, and do business with, someone they like. There are Laws of Likeability that can help you connect with people better and achieve your goals while helping other people achieve their’s. To be Likeable means that people like being around you and there is a sense of trust and ease of conversation.

Here are some of the Laws of Likeability, courtesy of our friend of Love University (and guest), Forbe’s top negotiator, Michelle Tillis Lederman:

*Like Yourself First: Before others can like you, you need to like yourself. Mentally focus on your positive and pleasing qualities. Maybe you’re compassionate, witty, or have a great sense of humor. Whatever talent you have, focus on developing them and sharing them with others.

*Law of Curiosity: Be genuinely interested in other people. Ask them questions about their dreams, goals, and accomplishments. People like someone who is genuinely interested in them. The more you want to know about them, the more they will want to know about you and what you desire in life.

*Law of Reflective Listening: When you listen to other people, listen attentively and repeat back some of what they say to you. If they say, “I had a tough day at work,” you can say, “Work can be pretty tough, sometimes.” As long as you are sincere, reflective listening shows the person that you genuinely care about what they’re going through.

*Law of Similarity: People like those who they feel are similar to them. When you talk to someone, accentuate your similarities. Maybe, you both went to the same school, or you like the same hobby or food. Ask questions and seek to establish common conversational ground to increase your likeability and connect better with others.

*Law of Cheerful Giving: People love those who are generous and give from an open heart. Make it a habit to help others without expecting anything in return. Help a homeless person, volunteer at church, give to charity. Help a coworker, listen to a friend, do a favor for a business associate. When you give with a sense of love and generosity, you will not only increase your likeability, but also the likelihood that other people (or the Universe) will return the favor back to you.

If you practice these Laws of Likeability, you will attract good people into your life and prosper in your career or business. You will also help more people along the way and have a great time in the process.

Wednesday Dec 19, 2018

SPECIAL GUEST: BEST-SELLING PSYCHOLOGIST HENDRIE WEISINGER: HOW TO BE RELAXED IN A PRESSURE-FILLED WORLD

Wednesday Dec 19, 2018

Are you under pressure? In our time-crunched, technology-driven, results-obsessed society, many of us feel psychological pressure to perform at the highest level, even when we don’t feel like it. Now there’s a way to reduce your pressure, enjoy life more, and get better results.

Recently, we had our friend, Dr. Hendrie Weisinger, two times New York Times bestselling author and performance psychologist on Love University, and we learned the secrets of handling psychological pressure so can live a full and happy life.

Here are some tips for handling pressure courtesy of Dr. Weisinger, whether it’s related to school, work, career, business, relationships, or your personal life:

*See Pressure as a Fun Challenge: Don’t be intimidated by a pressure situation (asking your dream person out on a date; going for the job you really want; making a speech or presentation). Instead think of it as a fun learning experience in which you get to learn about yourself and grow as a person. Even if you get turned down for the date or the job (or if the speech wasn’t perfect), you have practiced going for what you want, and you will eventually succeed.

*Recall Past Successes: Make a habit of thinking back to those times when you did succeed, whether it was in your career, relationship, or personal goals. When you focus on your past successes, you will anchor that winning, positive feeling of joy and confidence into your mind. As a result, you will have less trepidation and anxiety, and more confidence and self-belief, about your ability to achieve your present goals, even when you face pressure or obstacles in your path.

*Go for Micro-Successes: If you haven’t had much success in your life in a particular area (relationships, money, happiness), aim for micro-successes—small wins or accomplishments toward your goal. If you’re shy, smile at others and get a smile back. If you’re fearful of public speaking, practice speaking before supportive friends. If you feel anxious about quitting your job and starting a new business, do the new business part-time as you build results and profits. When you experience these micro-successes, you will start to feel more confident and motivated, and you will be able to take the next step for your goal, despite the pressure you may face (fear of failure, for example).

*Think Optimistically: “There’s Plenty of Fish in the Sea”: Instead of overstressing the importance of a particular goal or activity, realize that you will have many more opportunities to succeed in the future. If things aren’t working out for you, you can always find another date, job, business opportunity, leisure activity, and even social circle. Keep an open and optimistic mind that you can always do better, have more, and be more—this optimistic mindset will take the “do or die” pressure off you as you realize that you will always have another opportunity to succeed as long as you are alive.

Tuesday Dec 18, 2018

THE MILLIONAIRE MIND: YOUR ROUTE TO RICHES

Tuesday Dec 18, 2018

Would you like to have the Millionaire Mind—a mindset of riches, abundance, and prosperity? Now you can by following these simple steps:

Create Your Own Money Story: Many people have a fear or scarcity money story. They say to themselves phrases like, “I will never have enough money.” To attract financial and material prosperity into your life, you need to change your story into one of abundance and wealth. Write down and repeat to yourself: “I have all the money I need to help myself, my family, and others.” Say this to yourself (or out loud) every day until it becomes a part of your waking consciousness.

Visualize Your Money Story: Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and imagine that money and all types of precious metals and treasures are filling up your room, as well as the rooms of your loved ones and neighbors. Take a deep breath as you smell the extravagance and luxury of riches, money, and abundance. Experience the pleasure and joy of being able to use money to grow in life as well as to contribute to the lives of others. Write down your money goals and create a vision board—complete with pictures of what you want (cars, house, vacations, experiences, helping others). Feel that you already have them.

Act on Your Money Story: Now that you have a firm vision of what you want, take action to accumulate wealth. Follow the 10-10-80 rule. Put aside your first 10% to give to charity or your church, the next 10% to save and invest, then live off the remaining 80%. Find an outline platform that automatically deducts money from your account to invest—that way you will invest every week and grow your money without thinking too much about it. Resolve that you will acquire the education, knowledge, skills, connections, and resources to reach your financial or business dream. Resolve that you will not give up until you have achieved the financial security you desire for yourself and your loved ones. Also, realize that the more you give money to help others, the happier you will feel (research-proven), and the more likely you are to receive money and prosperity in return.

As you bring more material wealth and riches in your life, you will realize that the main purpose of money is to enrich the lives of those you love and care about. Bottom line: Love is the greatest riches of all.

Thursday Dec 06, 2018

LOVING-KINDNESS AND COMPASSION: YOUR ROUTE TO A JOY-FILLED EXISTENCE

Thursday Dec 06, 2018

To be compassionate means to help relieve the suffering of others. We start by being compassionate with ourselves, loving ourselves and forgiving ourselves for any mistakes or errors we have made. Once we do this, we can direct our compassion outwardly to others.

Here are ways to exercise your compassion muscles on a daily basis:

*Practice daily gratitude: Think of the things you are grateful for.

*See Kindness as a strength: Be firm when you need to be, but don’t be afraid to be kind to others.

*Recognize the commonalities between yourself and others: We all want to increase our happiness and reduce our suffering.

*Practice empathy: Put yourself in the shoes of others.

*Give as if you are the receiver: Imagine that you are receiving the gift you are giving—with joy and gratitude.

*Go out and help those who are hurting and lonely: Help the wounded, listen attentively to someone, give practical help.

If you practice compassion on a daily basis, you will be on your way to a joy-filled existence.

Monday Nov 26, 2018

THE POWER OF POSITIVE KARMA: ATTRACTING THE RESULTS YOU WANT

Monday Nov 26, 2018

Attract Your Deepest Desires with Positive Karma: Overflowing your life with kindness, compassion, and goodness will trigger The Law of Cause and Effect. Doing so can change your life as you bring positive results in your relationships, career, finances, health, and personal happiness. Be kind today and receive kindness tomorrow.

Wednesday Nov 21, 2018

AMAZING GUEST: DR. DONALD HOFFMAN, COGNITIVE SCIENTIST, OVER 2 MILLION TED TALK LISTENERS: WHY EVERYTHING YOU KNOW IS NOT REAL

Wednesday Nov 21, 2018

Wednesday Nov 14, 2018

SPECIAL GUEST: “GUY SPY” MID-LIFE RELATIONSHIP EXPERT, JONATHON ASLAY: WHAT A MAN REALLY WANTS; WHAT A WOMAN REALLY NEEDS

Wednesday Sep 26, 2018

SPECIAL GUEST: ALEXIS MEADS, TOP TONY ROBBIN'S RELATIONSHIP COACH:WHY DO GREAT PEOPLE HAVE A HARD TIME FINDING THEIR SOUL MATE?

Friday Jun 08, 2018

Wednesday May 30, 2018