Episodes
Tuesday Jul 02, 2019
Tuesday Jul 02, 2019
On Love University, I was pleased to visit with a marvelous human being, Rebecca Forster, NY times bestselling crime author and humanitarian. Rebecca has written over 30 books, has touched many people through her philanthropic work, and has a thriving 40 + year marriage and personal life. Here are some of the valuable tips we learned from Rebecca on writing and life:
On How to Be A Great Writer:
*Find the joy in writing: Don’t just do it for money or acclaim. Find the story (or idea) that is burning inside you—that needs to get out. Root for the characters in your book—even the bad ones (make them as bad as they can possibly be). Have fun and you will create good work.
*Take baby steps: When Rebecca was just starting out, she had her toddler next to her and she would put a page in the baby’s typewriter as she put one in her’s and started writing. No matter what your situation (parent, full-time worker, student) currently is, you can make time to write. Start by writing a certain number of words per day, and soon your passion will build and you will eventually write a book you can be proud of.
*Educate Yourself: With today’s self-publishing and marketing opportunities, you can create your own cottage writing industry. Learn everything you can about writing, publishing, and marketing. Attend writer’s groups and conferences; read e-books, learn from videos about the craft and business of writing.
On How to Have a Great Relationship:
Rebecca has been married for over 40 years to a judge who helps her with background research on her thrillers. Here are some of the secrets to a healthy and happy marriage:
*Find the humor in each other: If you find each other humorous, that’s a great plus because humor can serve as a buffer against stress and conflicts. Share jokes and stories with each other; watch funny videos, shows, or comics—strive to have several times of laughter with your mate each day.
*Be curious together: Strive to learn new things together; attend classes, go on trips, vacations, and adventures. Always keep learning about each other; spend time in different situations, environments, and people. The couple that learns together, grows together.
*Realize that your differences can be strengths: Although compatibility (similarity in important values) can be important in relationships, sometimes complementary traits—opposite styles that mesh—can also work. For example, your partner is an Introvert (energy within), and you’re an Extravert (energy from social interactions), you can make it work if you respect each other’s style. The Extravert can get the Introvert out of the house and socializing, and the Introvert can calm and relax the Extravert.
*Be each other’s cheerleader and number one fan: When you are proud of your spouse or partner, and their successes (and they feel the same way about you), the relationship is stronger and smoother. Don’t let envy creep into your relationship. Every day strive to express your appreciation and admiration for your mate and what they do to keep your marriage and family strong.
On How to Be A Great Person
*Be open to experience: When Rebecca was sick in a hospital, she noticed some things that needed improvement. She told the hospital, and as a result, she was invited to be a patient advisor. This opened her up to new insights and helped her become a more compassionate person as she improved the lives of patients. In the same way, find ways to say “Yes” to people who need your help. Be open to making new connections, associations, and friendships. The more open you are, the more life will bring favorable circumstances into your life.
*Never say you don’t have the time or opportunity: When Rebecca first started writing, she was working a full-time corporate job and had a baby, but she didn’t let circumstances stop her. Initially, writing late at night, she resolved to write a certain number of pages each day before she stopped. When you have discipline and work toward a goal you desire, almost nothing can stop you—as long as you have the passion to truly express yourself.
*Give love without expectation: Volunteer at non-profit organizations, hospitals, charities, or churches. Help those who are less fortunate than you—listen empathetically to friends, acquaintances, neighbors, and even strangers. The key is to help others without expectation—without expecting that they will appreciate, praise, or even like you. You do it because love is an essence within you that is clamoring to get out. It has a self-renewable quality—the more you express it, the more of it you get back.
Yes, you can become a great writer (or excel in any other creative venture you desire), as well as becoming an excellent person. All it takes is drive, persistence, and the help of loving people around you. When you create and help others, you will discover your true inner beauty, calmness, and peace, and you can share it with the world.
Monday Jun 24, 2019
Monday Jun 24, 2019
Would you like to be a celebrity in your own life, with star power and confidence to influence others, present your best image, and achieve your ideal career and relationships? To be an everyday celebrity means that you will harness your inner talents and charisma to express your best self and connect with others in a significant and impactful way.
Start by following these tips from my friend and special guest on Love University, Jess Ponce, Hollywood Branding Coach extraordinaire:
*Be Clear: When you show up somewhere—whether it’s a business meeting, social interaction, or presentation, make sure you know why you are there and what your goals are. Do you want to make a sale, get a date, or effectively communicate your points in a speech or talk? Whatever your goal is, make sure you express your best and most authentic self while achieving it.
*Be Confident: To be confident you need two things: 1. Belief in your subject matter (be an expert) and 2. Understand the value to your audience (the person or people you are talking to). If you’re making a sales presentation, understand the benefits that you are providing your customer and why you are the best person to deliver them.
*Be Charismatic/Develop You CQ (Celebrity Quotient): All of us, even shy or Introverted people, have charm or charisma—sometimes hidden deep down. Your CQ, or Celebrity Quotient, is made up of the 3 things that shine the most from your essence—your three most unique and attractive qualities.
Ask yourself: How did I feel in my perfect scenario when I impressed an attractive person, made a breakthrough in my job or career, or expressed an ability (performing, creating, teaching, helping)? What talents or attributes did I exude? Perhaps, when you got a date with the person you really liked, you were smart, helpful, and honest. Or, when you made a great presentation, you were open, funny, and touching. Write down your three traits that make up your CQ.
Whatever your three strongest psychological or personality qualities are, strive to develop and use them as much as possible. If you’re entertaining and funny, get involved in entertainment or pop culture activities. If you’re an empathetic and sensitive person, strive to help others in nonprofit, religious, or charitable ventures—help strangers and people you come across on a daily basis.
Every day, strive to apply the talents that make up your CQ to break the ice, make new connections, communicate ideas and options, and help others feel better. The more you use your talents, the higher your CQ will be, and the more positive people and situations you will attract into your life.
Yes, you can be a celebrity in your everyday life—a person of value and importance who can make good things happen in your relationships, career, social life, and personal happiness and self-esteem. Decide today that you will shine your inner essence outwardly to others—connecting with them and bringing as much love, peace, and goodwill as you possibly can, every day that you are here on this marvelous earth.
Tuesday Jun 18, 2019
Tuesday Jun 18, 2019
Me and my Little Screen
“Created by My Little Bot”
I used to have to go to bookstores and video stores, I don’t anymore.
I used to have to go get groceries, I don’t anymore.
I used to have to call a taxi, I don’t anymore.
I used to have to buy a house, I don’t anymore.
I used to have to go to singles bars, I don’t anymore.
I used to go to restaurants by myself, and they called me a loser; they don’t anymore.
Now, it’s always me and my little screen, what do I need anything else for?
Do you love digital media and technology, or is it driving you crazy? Maybe, the answer is both. As we love the freedom, opportunities, and convenience it brings us, we may dislike the distancing of true connections, the obsession with triviality that robs our valuable time and energy, and the lack of focus that is lost in constant distractions.
Although there is much to like about technology, smart phones, and the internet, let’s look at some areas of caution (and opportunity) we need to be aware of:
*We Live in an Untethered Society: With digital hyperconnectivity (we’re connected with the world, 24-7), it’s possible to live remotely in one place and make money or have relationships in another (even a faraway place). This can be a great advantage, but it also means that we may not put down roots—in a community, a relationship, a life. We may become “Digital Nomads,” wandering the world (in a virtual reality sense)—forever looking for the perfect relationship, career, or lifestyle, but not able to settle on one.
*We Become Impatient: If an Uber takes too long to come, we may call for a Lyft. If a prospective dating partner doesn’t return our text in 10 minutes, we move on to the next by swiping on our phones. If we don’t like our job, we click onto a site to find another. Although having options can be liberating, too many options can confuse us and make us impatient. We forget what it’s like to work for things, commit to people and situations, to develop discipline and work hard for the things that really matter.
*We Can Become Addicted and Lonely: Studies show that being on social media can give us the same brain chemical rush as playing the slot machines. You keep clicking and checking for that payoff or jackpot: a “Like” or a favorable message that will bring you good news. The same happens when you view pleasurable or exciting video content; you keep watching and watching to get that brain rush, but you may neglect more important tasks like your personal care, your family and relationships, your work and career. When people lose their phones, they may even suffer from depression, similar to the withdrawal symptoms of a drug addict—suffering as if they have lost their very lives. Also, living a perpetual digital life (constantly on a screen or tablet) can create a disconnected and lonely feeling—the primary interaction is with a screen and not with real, live human beings, face-to-face.
*You’re on 24-7. In the days before the internet and cell phones, people had to call you (and you had to answer the phone) or come over to your house to interact with you. In between, you had moments of rest and relaxation. You could read a book, listen to music, watch the birds, play with animals and children, or just have a plain old-fashioned conversation with family, friends, or neighbors. Today, with constant texting, messages, phone calls, and emails, it seems like there’s not enough time to do anything, much less have real, one-on-one, face-to-face conversations.
Although the digital world can pose pitfalls and dangers, there is a lot to love about it too: the freedom to live and work anywhere (remotely), connect with friends and relatives all over the world, communicate injustice to the world, organize data better, and live a more convenient life (products, services, food, books, and movies on demand). In the future, we need to integrate the good and the bad, and come up with a technology solution that allows us integrate technology into our lives while still enabling us to be fully human: loving, peaceful, and capable of living a meaning-driven life.
Tuesday Jun 18, 2019
Tuesday Jun 18, 2019
Do you have critical voices in your head? Thoughts that tell you that you’re not good enough, worthy enough, attractive enough, lovable enough or smart enough to succeed in life? Welcome to the Inner Critical World. Many of us have adopted these voices from parents or other people from our past, and these critical inner voices keep us from fulfilling our full potential.
Now, there’s a way to take charge over your negative thoughts and live a life of freedom and triumph, through the use of Voice Therapy, as pioneered by esteemed psychologist Lisa Firestone and her distinguished father, psychologist Robert Firestone.
Here are some tips:
- Identify the Voice: In a journal or tablet give it a name, maybe the critical inner voice a name, perhaps, “Loveless Lucy (you’ll never find love),” or “Broke Bob (you will never make money),” and even draw a figure representing it. Recognize that this critical voice may be temporarily in your head, but it is not you.
- Talk Back to the Voice: Tell the voice to “Get out.” Say to it, “I am lovable and will find love.” “I can be rich in both material and spiritual ways.” The more you talk back to the critical voices in a firm, yet strong way, the more you can diminish their influence in your mind.
- Realize the Myth of the Friendly Critical Voice: At first when you start to separate yourself from the negative thoughts, part of your mind will feel uncomfortable and even lonely. After all, these self-defeating thoughts have been with you for many years; you may even weirdly see them as friends. But they are not friends or friendly; they only want your demise. Tell yourself that these thoughts are your enemies, and that you will banish them from your mind forever.
- Find Your Personal Meaning: One of the best ways to banish critical inner voices is to find a personal passion or mission that drives you. Maybe, you want to help animals, children, or the homeless. Perhaps, you want to write a book, start a business, develop a new technological advance. Or, you simply want to be a great parent, spouse, or friend. Whatever your personal meaning is, focus on that, and you will find your mind growing stronger with life-affirming, positive, and loving thoughts.
- Extend Loving Energy Without Expectation: One of the greatest antidotes to fear and sadness is to extend loving energy without expectation. Be kind to others—smile, compliment them, help them in practical matters. Be a good listener, donate, give advice if asked. When you love others without expecting anything in return, you liberate yourself from the fear of being rejected or criticized. Love simply flows from you outwardly and returns to you in the same way.
There is good news: You can master your critical inner voices and live free of their influence. Take control of your mind, and the rest of your life will be cheery, joyful, and loving. Your effort will create effortlessness as you live the life you were meant to live.
Tuesday Jun 11, 2019
Tuesday Jun 11, 2019
It was my privilege to have on Love University Podcast the esteemed Father Gregory Boyle, a Jesuit priest and founder of Homeboy Industries. Father Boyle has dedicated his life to providing former gang members with the opportunity to transform their lives and give back to the community. Here are some of the profound nuggets of wisdom he offered Love University Listeners:
*We Need to Create a Community of Tenderness: This is the highest form of spiritual maturity. When we are tender and kind—even to those who are hurtful—we elevate love from an idea stuck in our heads to a “connective tissue”—a part of our everyday DNA. When do this, we no longer separate the world into “us and “them”—we enter a zone of Exquisite Mutuality, where we inhabit our own nobility and goodness, and encourage others to do the same. Now we see others as part of us, and us as part of them. We are one, and that one is only love.
*Higher Love Can Dismantle the Messages of Shame and Disgrace. When we do something wrong or self-harming such as addictions, bad habits, or self-destructive behaviors, we feel shame and disgrace. That shame and disgrace further weakens us and makes us want to repeat the same negative behavior because we don’t think we can do any better (or deserve any better). Higher Love (from God or nature) is what forgives our mistakes and allows us to forgive ourselves with self-compassion. The more self-compassionate we are, the less likely we are to repeat the same self-defeating actions.
*Catch People (and Yourself) Doing the Right Thing: Often, we are quick to judge and condemn others (and ourselves) for making a mistake. Although we can learn from mistakes, it is often far better to catch people and ourselves doing the right thing. Praise others and yourself when acting rightly (speaking up against injustice; expressing honesty; saying “No” to a bully). The bottom line: We all want to be loved and appreciated. When we reinforce the good in others (and ourselves), we find the noble divinity within, and this goodness grows and blossoms.
*Narrow Your Focus on Love: It is said that narrow is the road that leads to “life” (peace and love). However, instead of focusing on the narrow (how hard it is to be a highly spiritual person), we need to narrow the focus: Concentrate on loving “being loving.” Many people impatiently wait on outcomes and success, and they become frustrated and disappointed when they don’t get that financial goal (or win that person’s heart). Instead, our focus needs to be on being loving—extending loving energy without expectation. That by itself is enough to bring us peace and joy and attract all the good things we truly need.
It’s true: Higher Love can turn woundedness into health, deformity into beauty, and embarrassment into laugher. In the end, this love can help us belong to each other on the Earth and create a spiritual kinship with our fellow human travelers in life—elevating us and leaving the world a little better than when we entered it.
Tuesday Jun 04, 2019
HOW TO UNLEASH YOUR CREATIVE GENIUS AND CREATE YOUR DESTINY
Tuesday Jun 04, 2019
Tuesday Jun 04, 2019
Are you are creative person? If you are, or want to be, there are some tips you can apply to enhance your creative nature. Creativity means putting together new connections and seeing things differently, and in a better way. Creative people tend to be happier, live longer, have better relationships, experience an expanded sense of time, and enjoy a sense of personal freedom.
Try these techniques to strengthen your creativity muscles:
*Decide that You Can Be Creative: If you have the desire for creativity, you can nurture it and become more creative. Creativity can be simple. You don’t have to be an artistic or scientific genius. You can develop everyday creativity in the way you cook, organize things, solve business problems, interact with people, teach a child.
*Change Your Routines: Go to work in a different route, try a new restaurant, talk to people you don’t know. When you change up your typical behavioral patterns, you rewire your brain to think differently and come up with more creative solutions.
*Move Your Inspiration: Many people say they will wait for inspiration to move them—to write a book, come up with an invention, or start a new business. The reality is that if you wait for inspiration to “move you,” you may be waiting for a long time. The key is to “move your inspiration” through work and discipline. Set aside a certain amount of time each day—a few minutes or several hours—when you can do your most creative work. If you practice creativity daily, you will find a rhythm and flow to your activities, and creative inspiration will come to you naturally.
*Get a Creativity Buddy: Find a person (or people) who also want to develop their creativity. Throw ideas off each other. One good way to be creative is to Brainwrite: You write an idea down, and then go around the room, with each person writing an idea to add to it. Pretty soon, you have an outpouring of creative ideas.
*Combine Ideas: Read and listen to material in fields you are not normally familiar with. If your area is science, try reading fiction; if you’re a history buff, take a look at science. When you expand your knowledge in other areas, you’re able to come up with fresh perspectives that can stimulate your creativity in your chosen field.
*Maintain Positivity: Research shows that negative feelings such as sadness diminish creativity, while feeling comfortable and positive enhances creativity. Increase your gratitude by maintaining a Gratitude Journal (write down 3 things you’re grateful for every day). Look at the positives in your life to enhance optimism, give loving energy to others (smile, compliment, give assistance) without expectation, so you can increase your sense of compassion and love.
When you do these things, you will begin to raise your creativity level. You can solve problems better, be a better friend, colleague, family member, and love partner, and you will feel healthier and happier in the process. Whether your creativity manifested in a big discovery to change the world, or simple creative acts that help others and make your environment a little better, you will enjoy the fruits of creativity and feel like a contributing and loving person on this Earth.
Wednesday May 29, 2019
YOUR SUPERCHARGED SELF-ESTEEM: FEELING GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF
Wednesday May 29, 2019
Wednesday May 29, 2019
YOUR SUPERCHARGED SELF-ESTEEM: FEELING GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF
By Dr. Alex Avila
Does life have you feeling down? Would you like to have more self-confidence, inner power, and success? Now, there’s a way to have “Supercharged Self-Esteem,” an ever-growing sense of self-mastery and belief in yourself, that is realistic, yet humble; powerful, yet compassionate.
Here are some ways to have “Supercharged Self-Esteem.”
*Develop Self-Compassion: When you make a mistake, forgive yourself. Ask yourself: “What if my child or loved one did the same mistake? Would I be gentle or harsh with them?” Be as gentle and forgiving with yourself as you are with those you love.
*Take a 5 Minute Daily Appreciation Break: In the evening, think about and write down the things you like about yourself. Maybe, you have a good sense of humor, you are kind and compassionate, you are good with your hands. Realize how much you have to offer the world with your talents and abilities, and you will feel like a strong contributor of value.
*Compare Yourself to Yourself: Instead of comparing yourself to those who are doing better (causing you to feel envious or inferior), only compare yourself to the “old” you. Note how much you have improved or grown from your previous self, and how you are better today than yesterday.
*Visualize Your Future Success: If you’re not better today than 5 years ago, then try this: Visualize your future success, doing what you love to do and being surrounded by the people you love. Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and imagine your brightest future—feel the success and joy, deep in your heart.
*Give Loving Energy Without Expectation: This is one of the greatest secrets of healthy self-esteem. Smile at other people, pay them a compliment, help them with money, time, or practical help. When you put positive energy out there, you will often reap benefits in the form of knowledge, contacts, material and practical windfalls, and spiritual feelings of joy and gratitude.
It’s true: you can raise your self-esteem and love yourself. It is only when we love ourselves, that we can truly begin to love and help others. A hot teapot can only pour hot tea. If you have love and compassion inside, you can pour that onto those you come into contact with.
For more on how to “Supercharge Your Self-Esteem” listen to Love University podcast on (put link) .
Thursday May 23, 2019
LAUGH YOUR WAY TO SUCCESS: USING HUMOR TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE:
Thursday May 23, 2019
Thursday May 23, 2019
Is life getting you down? Too many worries, too many bills, too many problems.
If so, then it’s time to Laugh Your Way to Success. New proven methods of humor and laughter generation can transform your life and improve your relationships, finances, career, health, and happiness. 79% of CEOs believe humor is an important trait for employees to have. 69% of Internet daters believe humor is an important factor in mate selection. People with a good sense of humor tend to live longer and healthier, have better relationships, and enjoy more career and financial success.
Let’s get to it. Here are some laughter psychological techniques to improve your life:
*Study the Funny: You can develop yourself into a funny and humorous person. Study your favorite sitcoms, comedy movies, and stand-up comics. Ask yourself: Why do you laugh? Do you like slapstick, wordplay, sarcasm, general silliness? Incorporate your preferred humor style into your daily interactions with people.
*Find a Humor Buddy: Find someone who resonates with your sense of humor, and play off each other. Tell each other jokes and stories. Form or join a humor group, where you get together with like-minded people to share funny jokes and stories and brainstorm humorous situations for fun and profit.
*Laugh Just for the Fun of It: Research shows that laughter (even if you don’t find something funny) releases pleasure brain chemicals that make you feel good. Laugh in the company of an appreciative friend, child, or animal. Laughter is contagious. Enjoy it.
*Get Your Fools Out: Some of us are shy or self-conscious—fearing that we’ll look like a fool in public. Try the paradoxical technique of acting foolish and silly in private. Get in front of a mirror and “act the fool”” Go ahead and laugh, jump up and down, and make funny and silly faces by yourself. When you do this in private, you will find yourself being more confident, outrageous, and funny in public.
*Keep a Funny File: On your smartphone, iPad, or notepad, write down humorous observations, stories, and jokes. The funniest things usually come from your personal experiences—often painful and difficult—that you can laugh about as time passes.
Here’s some humor: Why did the chicken cross the road? To get away from bad jokes like this (it was funny when I wrote it).
The message is simple: Laugh, and the whole world laughs with you. With practice of your funny bone, soon you’ll be laughing your way to success, healing, hope and happiness.
Wednesday May 22, 2019
Wednesday May 22, 2019
At the LA Times Book Festival this year, I had a marvelous time meeting a remarkable young man (now 30-years-old), Old Man Saxon, who raps about homelessness and other social issues. On Love University, he told us his personal inspirational story.
As a lonely and homeless young man living in his car in Los Angeles, Old Man Saxon found the positives in his situation, and even garnered humor from his experiences. He recounts an attractive young lady he met while he was homeless—he later learned she was homeless too—and they ended up having a good connection without spending any money on going out.
His advice: “If you’re not happy being alone, you’re in the wrong company.” He says people are lonely when they don’t have their “inner home”—the part of their mind that is content within itself.
Although homelessness can be dangerous, difficult, and heart-wrenching, Old Man Saxon found a certain liberating feeling in doing what he wanted to do on his own, without worrying about the usual societal expectations. He sees his homeless experience as a rite of passage for himself; growing from boy to man. He admits that he had certain advantages (he had a car), but he did face difficulties (he was robbed of clothes and cash while sleeping). Through his personal story and raps, Old Man Saxon, has inspired others who come to homelessness from abusive relationships, mental illness, and other unfortunate circumstances. He says that no matter how bad off he was, he always said to himself: “This homeless state will end. I will grow stronger from my experiences.”
His message: Don’t let the stigma of homelessness diminish your self-image and self-value. We are all God’s children, and sometimes circumstances conspire against us. Yet, despite all this, we can remain strong and confident in the belief that we are a person of value, love, and contribution. Find your inner mental home of security and love, and you can live everywhere and still be happy.
Tuesday May 14, 2019
Sunday May 12, 2019
Sunday May 12, 2019
“You are more than pretty feet,” says Love Expert Tinzley Bradford. Working with women who truly want love, Tinzley says women need to stop settling for less than they want, and by doing so, they will receive the love and respect from men that fosters great relationships.
Here is some no-nonsense advice to women who are seeking long-term, fulfilling relationships:
1. Be skeptical with guys you just meet who are dating other women and just “want to be friends.” They may have an ulterior motive, i.e. sex and convenience. Look for men who truly want to commit.
2. Treat yourself with care and approval. If you don’t love you, it will be hard for someone else to love you.
3. Focus on your blessings instead of your shortcomings. Stop putting yourself down and be grateful for the good things in your life (family, friends, career, talents, faith).
4. Look for the love of the friendship before you look for the love of the relationship. Friends first, lovers forever is a great motto to follow. The spiritual depth of your friendship with a man is what will determine the success of your long-term relationship with him.
5. Be open to “being single for the rest of your life.” It doesn’t have to happen that way, but by being your best self—without needing a man—you free yourself to be the most beautiful and attractive woman you can be. By being your truest self first, you will then attract the ideal man for you.
A lack of self-esteem is at the core of women (and men) who settle for less in life. It is said that life gives you what you ask of it. If you ask for the most and best possible, you will receive it—if you put in the work and keep your priorities straight—on the higher picture of life (i.e. God, family, love, and helping others). Once you reclaim your Queenhood, in the emotional and spiritual sense, you will naturally resonate and harmonize with the Kingly man in your life—a man of integrity, courage, love, and compassion.
Wednesday May 08, 2019
Wednesday May 08, 2019
Would you like to catch a liar? When big things are at stake—money, freedom, reputation, love—it may be easy to spot a liar if you know what to look for.
Here are the signs:
*Watch the Micro-Expressions: These are very quick facial and body expressions that last ½ second or less. Liars can’t control them so you can determine if they’re lying.
*Develop a Baseline: Observe the person when they’re not lying, and determine the types of facial and body expressions they usually use (wrinkling nose, blinking, etc.).
*Look for Inconsistencies: Now, when they are asked about an important personal issue, see if they express new micro-expressions that they didn’t show before—such as wrinkling their forehead, quick micro-shrugs of shoulder, lower voice (softer and softer), speech hesitation, and excessive swallowing.
*See the Big Picture: Other signs of lying include the liar thinking too much about their answer when they don’t need to (response should be automatic), or if they have emotions that don’t fit what they’re saying (smiling when talking about something sad).
*Consider the Shy or Insecure Person: Also, determine if the person is somewhat shy or insecure. Some of their micro-expressions (swallowing too much) could be due to their shyness, and not due to lying. The key is to determine if they use those micro-expressions consistently in the course of normal conversation.
Truth-telling is one of the essential elements of deep and meaningful relationships and everyday human transactions. Although there is such a thing as a compassionate lie (telling someone who is terminally ill that they can recover), lies can do significant damage to relationships and trust. By telling the truth, we can develop trust and authenticity, as well as the most important ingredient in successful relationships: Loving energy.
Thursday May 02, 2019
Thursday May 02, 2019
Monday Apr 22, 2019
HOW TO FALL (AND STAY) IN LOVE THE RIGHT WAY
Monday Apr 22, 2019
Monday Apr 22, 2019
Isn’t it an amazing feeling, falling in love? The sky seems bluer, the birds sing prettier, everything seems wonderful. Yet, we know that the brain rush of the chemicals of love has a limited time span, typically 6 months to 3 years. Once the initial euphoria fades away, how can you keep your love alive?
Here are some tips for falling (and staying) in love the right way.
*Enjoy the brain chemical rush, but don’t get caught up in it. Realize that the brain chemicals (dopamine, norepinephrine, etc.) that you first experience will make you feel “high” and giddy, but you also want to practice self-care. Don’t neglect your job or other responsibilities. Make sure you eat well and exercise; keep your body and mind strong.
*Take Your Time: Part of the chemical reaction of falling in love could be a fear (anxiety) of losing your partner. Thus, you may have a desire to “seal the deal”—commit too soon. Combat the uneasy sensation (anxiety) by spend a lot of time with your lover to see if you’re really compatible—through thick and thin—before you sign on the dotted line and commit to a long-term relationship.
*Keep the Love Alive With Romantic Gestures: Oxytocin is a bonding hormone that is released when you cuddle, touch, and make love. Spend time expressing physical affection and romantic tenderness to your partner or spouse. Keep doing it even after the honeymoon stage goes away, and you will have a stronger and more fulfilling relationship.
*Practice Cinematherapy: Here’s a new approach to get closer to your mate. In a month’s time, watch up to 5 relationship movies, and then talk about the relationships—how they differ or are similar to your’s. This is an excellent way to achieve perspective and even a sense of humor about your own relationship conflicts.
*Turn Toward Your Partner, Not Away: Research shows that happily married couple turn toward each other (show genuine interest and attention) 87% of the time, while couples likely to divorce turn toward each other only 37% of the time. For example, when your honey talks about their interest in art, listen to and respond to them. If you want to watch TV, or stay on your phone instead, it could hurt their feelings, and end up damaging your relationship.
*Revere Your Differences: Few couples, if any, are exactly alike. One may be more spontaneous, the other more structured. One may be more Introvert (seeking energy within), and the other more Extravert (seeking energy from other people). In the beginning of the relationship, your partner can do no wrong. Later, once the brain chemicals wear off, you may start criticizing each other—based on personality differences. The key to a happy and harmonious long-term relationship is to embrace and accept each other’s differences, and realize how two people can complement each other (The Introvert relaxes the Extravert; the Extravert beings the Introvert out of their shell).
*Look at the Big Love Picture: Amidst petty squabbles and worries about kids, sex, family, and finances, couples often forget why they came together in the first place. The solution is to strive to remember what you loved (and still love) about your romantic partner. Gain perspective on minor annoyances and disagreements by focusing on the big picture of why you’re together: To create light in the world—a positive alliance that will contribute to your lives and the lives of others.
There you have it—ways to fall (and stay in love) the right way. Instead of rushing into an infatuation, or throwing in the towel when things get tough, you can invest in a growing and beautiful relationship that will yield many dividends: better emotional and physical health, longer life, more career and financial success, and above all, a greater sense of peace, love, and contribution.
Wednesday Apr 10, 2019
HOW TO BE A FULL POTENTIAL PERSON: ACHIEVE YOUR MAXIMUM DREAMS
Wednesday Apr 10, 2019
Wednesday Apr 10, 2019
How to Be A Full Potential Person: Achieve Your Maximum Dreams
Would you to achieve your maximum potential and achieve your dreams? Now, you can by following these steps:
*Be Aware of Your Choices: Realize when your actions are moving you toward your goals or away from them. Listen to your intuition and decide to follow those instincts that will help you have a better life.
*Embrace the Unknown: You never know when a great opportunity will come to you. Maybe you talk to someone standing in line, and they give you valuable advice or a contact—perhaps, they can even become your best friend or life partner.
*Maintain Your One-Point Focus: Simplify your life and focus on the one thing that’s most important to you, whether it’s a career goal, learning something, spending more time with your family, or improving your health.
*Use the Power of Momentum: Once you’re on a roll—you start experiencing small successes and accomplishments—keep it going. If you work out 15 minutes a day, then increase it to 20, then 30—as you feel better and stronger, you will be more motivated to do more.
*Meditate on Eternity: The truth is that you have a slice of eternity to do everything you want to do in your life. You will die one day, and other people will have their place in the sun. In the meantime, be grateful for every moment you have, and strive to be the best you can possibly be.
You can be a Full Potential Person who maximizes your talents and gifts to enhance yourself and for the good of others. Keep working on yourself, and you will have the most wonderful gift of all to give: Love.
Monday Apr 08, 2019
Monday Apr 08, 2019
Are you a connector—someone who knows how to connect with people and get real results? In today’s fast-paced, technology-based society, being a Connector is more important than ever. With technology accelerating the pace of life, it’s important to become a Connector and bring people together to accomplish common goals and missions. You can obtain wonderful results in life if you become a Connector. Here are the 7 traits you need to develop the people skills you need to thrive in today’s world:
*Be Open And Authentic: People like those who are true to themselves and open about what they want. If you lack self-confidence, catch yourself in confident moments (write them down). Visualize your success in dealing with people in a positive and rewarding way.
*Have a Clear Vision: Be clear about your goal and be willing to ask for what you want. When you ask, make it easy for the other person to say “Yes.” You might start with a “Convenient Ask” (I can come to your office). Or start with a “Big Ask” and then lower it to something the other person is comfortable giving you.
*Believe in Abundance: Visualize that there is an abundance of resources in the world: time, money, friendships, opportunities, and you will have more motivation and persistence to succeed.
*Trust: Trust yourself and others. Yes, there are some who may try to take advantage of your good faith, but in the long run, your trust will be rewarded by people who reciprocate your good intentions (you will also learn how to weed out the bad apples).
*Curiosity: Have a desire to get to know people and find out about them—ask them about their hobbies, passions, goals, and dreams. You will find it easy to start a conversation when you focus on what people are interested in.
*Follow-through: Do what you say, and say what you’re going to do. Also keep commitments you make to yourself—whether it relates to health (diet, exercise), starting a new venture, or quitting a bad habit. Learn to be meticulous with your word, and keep to what you say to others and yourself.
*Be Generous: Generosity is one of the great gifts of the Connector. Be the person who connects people to each other (whether in business, friendship, or love). The more people you help with advice, connections, and friendship, the more likely you are to receive the same consideration back to you.
As you develop these traits of a Connector, you will find that more people will want to help you. You will start to create a dream team of people who can be your “emotional cheerleaders,” advisors, mentors, and colleagues. You will open yourself up to a world of fun, opportunity, and friendship when you become a true Connector.
Tuesday Mar 26, 2019
Wednesday Mar 20, 2019
ACTIVATE YOUR MIND OF A CHAMPION: LIVE WITH FULL COMMITMENT AND CONTENTMENT
Wednesday Mar 20, 2019
Wednesday Mar 20, 2019
ACTIVATE YOUR MIND OF A CHAMPION: LIVE WITH FULL COMMITMENT AND CONTENTMENT
By Dr. Alex Avila
Would you like to be a champion in life and achieve your dreams? New findings in psychology can help you accomplish your goals and realize your full potential. Here are some things you can do to live like a champion—someone who wins at life and excel in your personal happiness.
*Follow Your Clear Personal Vision Daily: To be a psychological champion, you need to find a strong focus, a purpose that gives you meaning. Perhaps, you want to teach, entertain, create, invent, grow a business, or take care of others, including your family. Whatever drives you in life should be at the forefront of your daily activities. Keep a journal in which you write down the things you do each day and how each of those things brings you closer (or don’t) to the one focus or driving purpose (mission) in your life.
*Tap into Your Multiple IQs: Each person has different types of intelligence they can draw from. You can draw from your analytical intelligence when you want to solve a problem, your emotional intelligence when you are dealing with emotions and relationships, and your spiritual (or LoveQ) intelligence when you are answering higher questions such as the meaning in life. Being aware of your different intelligences and developing them is an important part of becoming a mental champion.
*Develop A Growth Mindset: If you have a growth mindset, you are always seeking to learn and grow. If you have a fixed mindset, you set limits on yourself and what you can accomplish—you focus more on the prize (money, accolades) than the learning experience. People who value wisdom over external gains often acquire both because they place the most important (inner development) thing first.
*Instill If-Then Statements into Your Mind: Mental Champions use If-Then Statements when things get tough. When they face challenges, they provide themselves with a mental solution. They say to themselves things like: “If I doubt my abilities, I will think of my skills and successes.” These internal statements become triggers for them to get back on track when their resilience is running low.
*Associate with Like-Minded Champions: The people who surround you often affect you psychologically—for good or bad. Associate with people who are positive, kind-hearted, and who have a driving mission in life, and you will build a mastermind team to help each other achieve your goals in life. Grow together with like-minded champions mental champions, and you will have great people beside you to spur you forward to greatness.
*Consider Each Non-Success as a Stepping Stone to Greatness: Instead of calling something that didn’t work out, “A failure,” call it a “Non-Success.” You haven’t succeeded yet—at finding a soul mate, having the business or career your desire, enjoying the lifestyle you want—but you are on the right track if you learn from each Non-Success. Instead of feeling weak or deprived, consider each “No,” from life as one more step to hearing the beautiful word called “Yes. “
*Remember that Eternity is a Long Time: We often take our life for granted, thinking we will live forever. We don’t. Knowing that life is finite is one of the most powerful and beautiful pieces of knowledge you can have because it gives you the motivation to live your life to the fullest. Go for that unbelievable goal, that “unrealistic dream.” It is only unrealistic until you obtain it—then it becomes a tremendous feeling of satisfaction and contentment.
You can become a Mental Champion. Begin today by following the steps just described, and decide that you will leave behind a legacy of goodness, love, and contribution. For more on how to have the Mind of a Champion, listen to our podcast: ACTIVATE YOUR MIND OF A CHAMPION (link):
Sunday Mar 03, 2019
Sunday Mar 03, 2019
Saturday Feb 23, 2019
Saturday Feb 23, 2019
Are you rushing through life and trying to cram too many things in your day? Is your cell phone dominating your every moment?
If so, you can benefit from our latest podcast: "Genius of Slow,” featuring Carl Honoré, leader of the worldwide "Slow Movement." The Slow Movement was started in Italy to help people worldwide slow down their lives (eating, talking, doing), so they can live relaxed and stress-free lives in our busy, technology-rushed world.
Here are some “Slow Down” Techniques you can try to help you live easy:
*Master the Power of “NO”: Many successful people say “no” to most things because they prioritize and focus on what really matters in their lives: spending time with their loved ones and making a positive contribution to the world. By saying “no” to what you don’t want (meaningless involvements), you can say “yes” to what you truly want to do.
*Unplug from Technology: Technology dominates our lives. One smart strategy is to have times when you disconnect from your technological devices. A new trend is called “stacking.” When friends get together for a meal, they put their cell phones in a stack. The first one who grabs for their cell phone has to pay for the meal. Make it a fun game to see how long you can go without checking your technological devices. You will feel lighter and more relaxed.
*Develop a Slow Ritual: Find something you can do slowly that relaxes you, perhaps, drinking tea, or doing yoga, gardening, cooking, poetry, or sketching. Doing this activity 10 minutes (or more) in the morning and/or evening can help you unwind and switch your gears from the mindset of hurry and rush to one of calmness and serenity.
*Be Aware of Your Body: As you do activities, whether it’s showering, eating, or walking, be aware of your movements. Observe the food as it enters your mouth, feel the sensations of the warm water and soap on your skin, see yourself walking under a doorway. This type of awareness will help you realize just how rushed and tense you often are, and can help you slow down to find small daily pockets of peace and relaxation.
There you are. Now you can slow down and savor life. Truly relish every moment you have while you are here on this Earth. When you slow down, paradoxically, you will get things done quicker because you are more focused, efficient, and relaxed. Your undistracted and peaceful mind can do wonders.
Sunday Feb 10, 2019
COURAGE: THE POWER TO ACHIEVE YOUR DREAMS
Sunday Feb 10, 2019
Sunday Feb 10, 2019
For some people the word "Courage" is the stuff of legends. Astounding physical feats of bravery (the movie "Braveheart") comes to mind, great rescue attempts and stories of gritty survivals, such as the coal miners in Chile.
Yet, courage today also represents emotional and psychological overcoming of fear: Going for what you really want in life, saying "I love you" to those you care about, saying "No" to bullies.
When you have courage, you live with power, have more love, and are happier and more successful.
In today's podcast, you will learn the secrets of Courage:
- 1. DO YOUR RESEARCH: Get comfortable with the anxiety-producing situation. Drive to the job interview location; practice your speech with supportive friends.
- STEP OUT OF COMFORT ZONE: Do something different: Try that exotic restaurant you’ve been anxious about trying; say “Hello” to the person you want to meet.
- SEE CHALLENGE AS FUN: See the pressure situation as a way to learn and grow—enjoy yourself.
- BUILD COURAGE SUPPORT NETWORKS: Associate with confident, positive, loving, and courageous people. Find a Courage Mentor (from history or present time) and emulate them.
- THINK OF HOW YOU CAN GIVE: Think of the people who will benefit from your intelligent risk-taking (starting a family or business, switching to a new career).
- HAVE A COURAGE BURST: Think that you will be insanely courageous for only 30 seconds: apologize to a friend, ask an attractive person out for coffee, tell someone you love them. It’s only 30 seconds—you can do it.
- BUILD YOUR COURAGE MUSCLES DAILY: Take a small social and emotional risk every day (say “No” to what you don’t want, ask for what you want, negotiate something).
By the way, social courage is an important element of courage: extending yourself socially; meeting new people, fostering your existing relationships with honesty and loving energy.
Take the Social Courage Challenge this week: Come join us and meet new friends at the "Valentine's Masquerade" Social Mixer this Thursday 2/14/19 at 7PM at "Decades" in Anaheim. Practice your social skills as you wear a mask and meet quality people based on their personality type. Register on Eventbrite ($10.00): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/find-your-soul-mate-at-the-valentines-day-dating-masquerade-tickets-54611749212
It’s a very simple formula once you think about it: Develop courage and achieve your dreams.
Tuesday Jan 29, 2019
Wednesday Jan 23, 2019
THE POWER OF POSITIVE RESOLUTIONS: HOW TO ACHIEVE YOUR DREAMS
Wednesday Jan 23, 2019
Wednesday Jan 23, 2019
With the new year now in full swing, our thoughts turn to our goals and dreams for this year and how we can accomplish them. The truth is that only about 11% of people keep their resolutions permanently, yet there is a way for you to be part of that 11%.
To be successful in reaching your goals, and keeping your resolutions for the New Year, you need to finetune your Willpower--your ability to do what you want to do, and not do what you don't want to do. Here are some ways to increase your discipline and one-point focus so you can achieve what you desire this year, whether it’s in your finances, career, relationships, health, or happiness:
*Remove Temptations: Toss those potato chips (if you're on a diet), turn off your social media notifications (if you're hooked on checking them). Decide that you will eliminate temptations before you act upon them.
*Develop Micro-Habits: Start small when you develop good habits. Floss one tooth; workout 15 minutes a day, go to bed 15 minutes earlier to get a good night's sleep. You will find that that by taking small steps, you will have more energy and motivation to increase the time and effort you invest in your new goal (now, you floss all your teeth; workout 1 hour; go to bed 1 hour earlier).
*Write a Letter to Your Future Self: This is a powerful exercise. Write a "self-compassion" letter to your future self, telling it how you are taking good care of you now, so you will thrive in the future (10, 20, or 30 years later). Tell your future self how you are exercising and eating healthy now to avoid future health problems. How you are choosing the right career and romantic partner (and nurturing the relationship), so you can be happy in the future.
*Choose Disciplined Friends: Develop friendships with people who are highly motivated, disciplined, and positive--people who want to help make a difference in the world. You will be inspired by their example and will build a positive alliance with them to help yourself and others.
*Prioritize Your Energies: We have a bank of willpower that can be exhausted, and then needs to be recharged. As a result, it's wise to allocate your energy for things that are important. In life, there are four categories of tasks: 1. Important and Urgent (you're having a heart attack--make sure you prevent it with good health habits). 2. Important and not Urgent (spending time with your loved ones--this is where you should put most of your energy). 3. Urgent, but not Important (we are distracted by phone calls and emails when we should be focused on important things), and 4. Not urgent, not Important (excessive use of social media; too much TV watching--these things can relax you at times, but usually are a waste of time and energy--cut them down).
Now you have some of the secrets of willpower. Practice these techniques daily, and you will soon find yourself getting closer to achieving your goals and desires for this year. And, remember, that Love, in many forms--loving yourself, others, and a higher nature--is the best goal of all.
Tuesday Jan 15, 2019
Wednesday Jan 09, 2019
Wednesday Jan 09, 2019
We loved having Linda and Charlie Bloom on Love University--a wonderful happily married couple for over 50 years, and two licensed therapists, as well.
These bestselling authors and lifetime partners enlighten us by busting through the myths of love and marriage and teaching us the secrets of love.
Love Myth #1: You feel loving all the time when you're married.
Myth Buster #2: You still love them, despite being angry or sad, because you find the common ground in the relationship.
Love Myth #2: All differences must be resolved in the relationship.
Myth Buster #2: Its OK to have unresolved differences in a relationship. Differences may even strengthen the marriage (each partner can learn something new) as long as each partner respects the other.
Love Myth #3: If you loved me, I don't need to ask for what I want.
Myth Buster #3: It’s important to ask for what you want. The key is to have an atmosphere of acceptance and tolerance as each person shares their desires with their partner.
Love Myth #4: Love means never having to say, "You're Sorry."
Myth Buster #4: Keep the word "I'm sorry" at your fingertips, as you apologize sincerely if you hurt your partner. These powerful words can relieve great stress in a relationship.
Other secrets of a successful relationships and happy marriage include:
*Give Your Best Energy to Your Relationship
*See Your Relationship as a Living Entity
*Happy couples are slightly delusional—they see their partner in a positive light, even though doing so may be a little unrealistic.
*Love is not 50-50: It could be 90-10, with one partner carrying the weight for a while. Then, it reverses, and the other partner gives 90%. It evens out in the long-term.
Listen in as you learn the secrets of great relationships and marriages.
Friday Jan 04, 2019
Friday Jan 04, 2019
Do you want to win friends and influence people in the new millennium? Now there’s a way to increase your likeability factor and get the results you want.
Everyone wants to work with, and do business with, someone they like. There are Laws of Likeability that can help you connect with people better and achieve your goals while helping other people achieve their’s. To be Likeable means that people like being around you and there is a sense of trust and ease of conversation.
Here are some of the Laws of Likeability, courtesy of our friend of Love University (and guest), Forbe’s top negotiator, Michelle Tillis Lederman:
*Like Yourself First: Before others can like you, you need to like yourself. Mentally focus on your positive and pleasing qualities. Maybe you’re compassionate, witty, or have a great sense of humor. Whatever talent you have, focus on developing them and sharing them with others.
*Law of Curiosity: Be genuinely interested in other people. Ask them questions about their dreams, goals, and accomplishments. People like someone who is genuinely interested in them. The more you want to know about them, the more they will want to know about you and what you desire in life.
*Law of Reflective Listening: When you listen to other people, listen attentively and repeat back some of what they say to you. If they say, “I had a tough day at work,” you can say, “Work can be pretty tough, sometimes.” As long as you are sincere, reflective listening shows the person that you genuinely care about what they’re going through.
*Law of Similarity: People like those who they feel are similar to them. When you talk to someone, accentuate your similarities. Maybe, you both went to the same school, or you like the same hobby or food. Ask questions and seek to establish common conversational ground to increase your likeability and connect better with others.
*Law of Cheerful Giving: People love those who are generous and give from an open heart. Make it a habit to help others without expecting anything in return. Help a homeless person, volunteer at church, give to charity. Help a coworker, listen to a friend, do a favor for a business associate. When you give with a sense of love and generosity, you will not only increase your likeability, but also the likelihood that other people (or the Universe) will return the favor back to you.
If you practice these Laws of Likeability, you will attract good people into your life and prosper in your career or business. You will also help more people along the way and have a great time in the process.
Wednesday Dec 19, 2018
Wednesday Dec 19, 2018
Are you under pressure? In our time-crunched, technology-driven, results-obsessed society, many of us feel psychological pressure to perform at the highest level, even when we don’t feel like it. Now there’s a way to reduce your pressure, enjoy life more, and get better results.
Recently, we had our friend, Dr. Hendrie Weisinger, two times New York Times bestselling author and performance psychologist on Love University, and we learned the secrets of handling psychological pressure so can live a full and happy life.
Here are some tips for handling pressure courtesy of Dr. Weisinger, whether it’s related to school, work, career, business, relationships, or your personal life:
*See Pressure as a Fun Challenge: Don’t be intimidated by a pressure situation (asking your dream person out on a date; going for the job you really want; making a speech or presentation). Instead think of it as a fun learning experience in which you get to learn about yourself and grow as a person. Even if you get turned down for the date or the job (or if the speech wasn’t perfect), you have practiced going for what you want, and you will eventually succeed.
*Recall Past Successes: Make a habit of thinking back to those times when you did succeed, whether it was in your career, relationship, or personal goals. When you focus on your past successes, you will anchor that winning, positive feeling of joy and confidence into your mind. As a result, you will have less trepidation and anxiety, and more confidence and self-belief, about your ability to achieve your present goals, even when you face pressure or obstacles in your path.
*Go for Micro-Successes: If you haven’t had much success in your life in a particular area (relationships, money, happiness), aim for micro-successes—small wins or accomplishments toward your goal. If you’re shy, smile at others and get a smile back. If you’re fearful of public speaking, practice speaking before supportive friends. If you feel anxious about quitting your job and starting a new business, do the new business part-time as you build results and profits. When you experience these micro-successes, you will start to feel more confident and motivated, and you will be able to take the next step for your goal, despite the pressure you may face (fear of failure, for example).
*Think Optimistically: “There’s Plenty of Fish in the Sea”: Instead of overstressing the importance of a particular goal or activity, realize that you will have many more opportunities to succeed in the future. If things aren’t working out for you, you can always find another date, job, business opportunity, leisure activity, and even social circle. Keep an open and optimistic mind that you can always do better, have more, and be more—this optimistic mindset will take the “do or die” pressure off you as you realize that you will always have another opportunity to succeed as long as you are alive.
Tuesday Dec 18, 2018
THE MILLIONAIRE MIND: YOUR ROUTE TO RICHES
Tuesday Dec 18, 2018
Tuesday Dec 18, 2018
Would you like to have the Millionaire Mind—a mindset of riches, abundance, and prosperity? Now you can by following these simple steps:
Create Your Own Money Story: Many people have a fear or scarcity money story. They say to themselves phrases like, “I will never have enough money.” To attract financial and material prosperity into your life, you need to change your story into one of abundance and wealth. Write down and repeat to yourself: “I have all the money I need to help myself, my family, and others.” Say this to yourself (or out loud) every day until it becomes a part of your waking consciousness.
Visualize Your Money Story: Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and imagine that money and all types of precious metals and treasures are filling up your room, as well as the rooms of your loved ones and neighbors. Take a deep breath as you smell the extravagance and luxury of riches, money, and abundance. Experience the pleasure and joy of being able to use money to grow in life as well as to contribute to the lives of others. Write down your money goals and create a vision board—complete with pictures of what you want (cars, house, vacations, experiences, helping others). Feel that you already have them.
Act on Your Money Story: Now that you have a firm vision of what you want, take action to accumulate wealth. Follow the 10-10-80 rule. Put aside your first 10% to give to charity or your church, the next 10% to save and invest, then live off the remaining 80%. Find an outline platform that automatically deducts money from your account to invest—that way you will invest every week and grow your money without thinking too much about it. Resolve that you will acquire the education, knowledge, skills, connections, and resources to reach your financial or business dream. Resolve that you will not give up until you have achieved the financial security you desire for yourself and your loved ones. Also, realize that the more you give money to help others, the happier you will feel (research-proven), and the more likely you are to receive money and prosperity in return.
As you bring more material wealth and riches in your life, you will realize that the main purpose of money is to enrich the lives of those you love and care about. Bottom line: Love is the greatest riches of all.
Thursday Dec 06, 2018
LOVING-KINDNESS AND COMPASSION: YOUR ROUTE TO A JOY-FILLED EXISTENCE
Thursday Dec 06, 2018
Thursday Dec 06, 2018
To be compassionate means to help relieve the suffering of others. We start by being compassionate with ourselves, loving ourselves and forgiving ourselves for any mistakes or errors we have made. Once we do this, we can direct our compassion outwardly to others.
Here are ways to exercise your compassion muscles on a daily basis:
*Practice daily gratitude: Think of the things you are grateful for.
*See Kindness as a strength: Be firm when you need to be, but don’t be afraid to be kind to others.
*Recognize the commonalities between yourself and others: We all want to increase our happiness and reduce our suffering.
*Practice empathy: Put yourself in the shoes of others.
*Give as if you are the receiver: Imagine that you are receiving the gift you are giving—with joy and gratitude.
*Go out and help those who are hurting and lonely: Help the wounded, listen attentively to someone, give practical help.
If you practice compassion on a daily basis, you will be on your way to a joy-filled existence.
Monday Nov 26, 2018
THE POWER OF POSITIVE KARMA: ATTRACTING THE RESULTS YOU WANT
Monday Nov 26, 2018
Monday Nov 26, 2018
Attract Your Deepest Desires with Positive Karma: Overflowing your life with kindness, compassion, and goodness will trigger The Law of Cause and Effect. Doing so can change your life as you bring positive results in your relationships, career, finances, health, and personal happiness. Be kind today and receive kindness tomorrow.
Wednesday Nov 21, 2018
Wednesday Nov 21, 2018
Wednesday Nov 14, 2018
Wednesday Nov 14, 2018
Wednesday Nov 14, 2018
Monday Nov 05, 2018
UNLEASH YOUR CREATIVE GENIUS: 7 SMART WAYS INCREASE YOUR CREATIVITY
Monday Nov 05, 2018
Monday Nov 05, 2018
Friday Nov 02, 2018
Friday Nov 02, 2018
Tuesday Oct 23, 2018
SPECIAL GUEST: GAL SZEKELY: THE MAGIC OF INTIMACY: MAKING LOVE WORK
Tuesday Oct 23, 2018
Tuesday Oct 23, 2018
Wednesday Oct 17, 2018
SPECIAL GUEST: LISA COPELAND: LOVE AND HAPPINESS FOR THE MATURE WOMAN
Wednesday Oct 17, 2018
Wednesday Oct 17, 2018
Wednesday Oct 10, 2018
PSYCHOLOGICAL IMMORTALITY: HOW TO LIVE FOREVER AND LEAVE AN EMOTIONAL LEGACY
Wednesday Oct 10, 2018
Wednesday Oct 10, 2018
Tuesday Oct 02, 2018
THE SUPERPOWER OF ATTENTION: HOW TO BE PRODUCTIVE IN AN ATTENTION-DEFICIT WORLD
Tuesday Oct 02, 2018
Tuesday Oct 02, 2018
Wednesday Sep 26, 2018
Wednesday Sep 26, 2018
Wednesday Sep 26, 2018
Wednesday Sep 19, 2018
THE GREATNESS OF MARRIAGE: FRIENDS FIRST, LOVERS FOREVER
Wednesday Sep 19, 2018
Wednesday Sep 19, 2018
Wednesday Sep 12, 2018
THE PSYCHOLOGY OF WEALTH: HOW TO HAVE THE MIND OF ABUNDANCE
Wednesday Sep 12, 2018
Wednesday Sep 12, 2018
Wednesday Sep 05, 2018
Wednesday Sep 05, 2018
Wednesday Aug 29, 2018
SPECIAL GUEST: ELLEN GENDELMAN: DISCOVER THE SECRETS OF LOVE AND HAPPINESS
Wednesday Aug 29, 2018
Wednesday Aug 29, 2018
Tuesday Aug 21, 2018
Tuesday Aug 21, 2018
Monday Aug 13, 2018
SPECIAL GUEST: NANCY COLIER: BE THE RULER OF TECHNOLOGY, NOT ITS SERVANT
Monday Aug 13, 2018
Monday Aug 13, 2018
Monday Aug 13, 2018
Wednesday Aug 08, 2018
Wednesday Aug 08, 2018
Wednesday Aug 01, 2018
SPECIAL SUMMER GUEST: DR. DIANA WILEY: FIND YOUR MATE WITH THE POWER OF PERSONALITY TYPE
Wednesday Aug 01, 2018
Wednesday Aug 01, 2018